You Are God's Best Idea! Daily Epigram for: January 29, 2012

"Withholding forgiveness is like barbed-wire - hard to get past."-
Douglas Holzmeier

Two of the greatest barriers to living the Undeniable Life are self-loathing and being unforgiving - and they are usually related. You were mistreated - neglected and abused - which leads to low-self esteem and anger toward the abuser. It is a toxic cocktail that is sipped – day by day – month by month – year by year - slowly inebriating hopes and dreams.

Forgiveness is as essential to living as cutting the umbilical cord is to the survival of the new born. Whatever the tie is between you and your abuser needs to be severed because it no longer serves a positive purpose. The abuser is usually a family member. Once you have started your own family - it takes priority and precedent over the old. This alone should help you move forward but from personal experience – I know how old wounds like these often heal slowly. More slowly if we are expecting the abuser to apply the salve.

Virtually all of the ailments we have ever had and their associated treatments – were healed by ourselves. Most medical treatments are used to mask symptoms and to alleviate pain until our body temples repair. The actual cure almost never comes from a pill or anything else outside of you. In other words – you don’t need your bully to apologize in order to get better. Heal thyself!

I wrote a rather long chapter (Divine Forgiveness) about being forgiving in You Are God’s Best Idea! Here are some of the epigrams from that chapter:

Pardon precedes peace. There is no peace without
forgiveness.

The pain of the unforgiven pounds heaviest on the hearts of
the unforgiving.

Every day is a great day to give the present the gift of
forgiveness.

The chains of the unforgiven are carried by those who
withhold the key to conciliation.

Loving the unlovable and forgiving the unforgivable is the light
that will illuminate your hour of darkness.

If you go into the darkness, to fight darkness, with more
darkness, it's going to be awfully hard to see.


If you are doing all of your manifestation work correctly - with enthusiasm – yet you are still finding mixed or even poor results; there may be a block of negative energy attached to unforgiveness. Be mindful that what we withhold – is withheld. It is the Law of Attraction and Reciprocity.

I attempted to receive an apology from my source of anguish on several occasions. They wouldn’t even admit they had hurt me - let alone apologize for it. The only way I was going to be able to remove pain was to accept that I was really nothing more than the surrogate for their suffering. My bully had a lot of good reasons to be angry – at someone else. If they had been able to love and forgive the object of their discontent – it would have spared me their malcontent.

Forgiveness heals three-ways. You remove your negative energy from them - which will often allow for healing - while keeping you from directing your hurt toward an innocent. Spiritually speaking – we are all innocents.

You cannot change the events of the past - but you can change what they mean to you. Since my antagonist fails to see the role they played in my pain – I have recast them as teacher. They taught me how NOT to treat another. Those were important lessons, even though they could have been taught differently. Regardless – I passed the class and treating people with peace; love and understanding - is the grade.

You can get past your strain when you leave it behind and withdraw the energy it needs to keep up with you. You can turn the cards over by simply folding the hand you were dealt. When you release and let go of pain - you will possess more than you could ever hope to hold - of Peace.

Remove the barbs from around your charm and be an embrace-let for peace. Peace is simple – we choose its ease.


You Are God's Best Idea!


~Douglas Holzmeier

Author of You Are God's Best Idea! Divine Acceptations and Living the Undeniable Life! (Balboa Press/Hay House)


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