Saturday, January 14, 2012

You Are God's Best Idea! Daily Epigram for: January 14, 2012

“The Archer who doesn't care where his arrows land - becomes the target of his aim."-Douglas Holzmeier

Have you ever witnessed a meltdown? I have – my own! I grew up in a house of 10: Mom and Dad – plus eight children. There were always at least two dogs and a cat in the house as well. Being heard was hard. There were lots of tantrums. All the wheels were squeaking – day and night.

I vowed that my house was never going to be that way. We (Denise and Daniel) speak to each other with respect and in appropriate tones. No name calling - no slings and no arrows. It doesn’t mean we don’t express our views and disagreements – we just don’t make it personal. We tone it down. We take it a step further. We make it a joke.

Whenever the tension rises above a certain point – a release valve automatically triggers – it is usually my wife’s sense of humor. She knows it takes two to tango and when she doesn’t like where the music is taking us – she changes the tune. You may not believe me but in our 30 year relationship – we have had one angry exchange.

It is just unacceptable to fight in our house. We don’t see each other as foes.

This should be the way it always is - but there are places and situations where we find fault and create enemies that are ready and willing to engage in hostility. This can be in an civic organization; a church (pray tell!); the neighborhood and the most popular place for conflict – the office!

Hierarchies have built in resentment. Organizational charts should be burned! Organizational charts say YOU have to listen to HIM - but not to HER – except when it pertains to THIS – and occasionally THAT – but only when HE decides THEY can’t handle what WE had decided to tell THEM. There needs to be a leader – but everyone under the leader is an important part of the team that should be focused on supporting one another and producing results. Instead – many workplaces are 3rd grade classes on steroids - where the objective isn’t to learn and graduate – but to burn and agitate. Slings and Arrows.

But as we know with the Law of Attraction – what you send out returns – multiplied. Even in a moment of what may seem like a reasonable self defense – the insult earned – pivots and injures. This is a tough one. It isn’t wrong to stick up for yourself and defend your record – but waste no time explaining because to most ears – it sounds like complaining. I am presently reading a number of books about illusions and perceptions. Like all of our senses – we perceive and decode input with our sensory apparatus (ears/eyes/etc) and our brains: Signals; Frequencies and Vibrations. We do not all like the taste of watermelon or broccoli. We do not all perceive colors. Some people see things that are not there and other people don’t see what is there. But we are all sensing vibrations and it is our individual (and collective) consciousness that determines what we believe we experience. (Following?)

When a person is “explaining” why they have been shortchanged or disrespected – the VIBRATION is the same as when you are angry. In other words – you may have launched an EXPLANATION arrow but the POINT is still as sharp as the HATE or HURT arrow and may do just as much damage. This is a lesson in taming our self righteousness. This is why it is better to be the mature and civil person in the face of incivility.

You can dispatch “right” angled arrows all day and all night but most of them cast you as the problem and set in motion the firing squad. Aim higher!

You Are God's Best Idea!

~Douglas Holzmeier

Author of You Are God's Best Idea! Divine Acceptations and Living the Undeniable Life! (Balboa Press/Hay House)

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